Pro Bono Jesus

Shut Your Mouth, Grandma!

Posted by in emotion, parenting, relationships

Parenting is hard. Hours after we had celebrated the birth of Jesus in Chicago we decided to take our kids bowling with grandma and grandpa.  The first few frames went as expected, but by frame six our four-year-old son decided that bowling still belonged in the 60’s.  Instead he wanted to eat all of the chips the bowling alley offered for sale. Given that we ate lunch prior to our bowling excursion and our son chose only to nibble, Dana and I were committed to chipless bowling.  Cue meltdown. As…read more

The Day I Learned to Lead

Posted by in emotion, physical health, relationships, vocation

Just a handful of hours after the birth of our second daughter, my wife entered into a deep internal darkness. Our second daughter had been born healthy, but my wife had not fared so well. She fell rapidly into the depths of postpartum depression. My mind rushed to what I knew. Be a real man. Do not be weak. But it was clear that my wife’s struggles were not a matter of the will – the joyous, peaceful, and energetic wife I knew had vanished. I had been the Senior…read more

Why I No Longer Try To Do My Best At Everything

Posted by in motive

I can still remember coming home after taking the ACT exam my Junior year of high school and feeling dejected and uncertain whether I spelled my name right. I shared my disappointment with a friend and they asked a good question, “well . . . did you do your best?” I responded quickly with a depressed “yeah” and went home. For whatever reason that simple question – “did you do your best?” – the same question that I had been asked 100’s of times for all sorts of things throughout my…read more

Discern God’s Will In 3 (Not Always Easy) Steps

Posted by in motive, spirit, vocation

On average we make 35,000 decisions every day. It’s one of the reasons it is so hard to decide between Jimmy Johns and Chipotle – we get tired of so many choices. Followers of Jesus are instructed to be faithful in each of those decisions. (Jesus has high standards.) Some choices are easy. Should I punch my neighbor for not mowing their yard this week? Should I steal a Snickers from the gas station because I don’t have any cash? Should I flip off the guy in front of me that…read more

The Power of a Moment

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A few nights ago I was in our girls’ upstairs bedroom helping them to get ready for bed. As they were putting their pajamas on, they spontaneously began to act out a wonderfully hilarious version of MasterChef Jr. It was amazing! They even interrupted their dialogue with a commercial break at the peak of anticipation. “And the winner is . . .” (cue fiery logo invading the screen) It was pure joy to watch their wit and laughter. But then came a familiar and gentle whisper from a sly robber….read more